A security blanket

Last week I had a routine appointment with a general practitioner (GP). Having recently moved to Small City, it was a new practice, a new doctor, and something which I approached with a certain degree of trepidation. Would I have to give my entire medical history for the purposes of being a new patient?  I didn’t want to go through the whole sorry tale for the purposes of a minor, non-fertility related, consultation.

In the end, GP was given a one-sentence run-down. Following my explanation, he offered to refer to me someone here, someone he assured me is very good. I politely declined. When I moved here I did not have any intention of seeking a new doctor and I still don’t. That will probably seem strange to some, but I love Dr C, and there really isn’t any reason to leave him. He is happy to supply me with prescriptions as long as I want them, and I’m sure he would agree to anything else I asked for at this point – he has always been most understanding and obliging.

The real point is that I just don’t think there is anyone else out there that is going to be able to offer us any  more insight or assistance in our case. I’ve seen many doctors along as we travelled along this road, including Dr Famous and he couldn’t help me. Dr C is one thousand times better and has given us much better advice, not to mention an impeccable level of care.

As I walked home that evening, I considered this. Although I didn’t want to accept the referral, in a way I am glad it is there. A kind of security blanket. And I am grateful to have a GP who was understanding of our situation, that I can see should the need arise. Those are, in my experience, extremely rare.

Another instalment about my appointment to follow.

  1. Justine’s avatar

    I think it’s hard to find doctors you really like … I drive over an hour to see my endocrinologist, and there are plenty of those in my town … I can understand why you wouldn’t want to change, but also glad that you found a GP who will listen to you.

  2. Julia’s avatar

    I think there’s a lot to be said with the level of comfort and familiarity you have with your doctor. You have a history, he knows your story—that’s worth a lot. Starting over sound emotionally exhausting. I don’t blame you for sticking with what you know.

    Best wishes to you!

  3. bunny’s avatar

    Hey, if a doctor inspires trust, that’s no small thing. I’m glad you’ve found that in Dr. C. And extra glad you weren’t forced to get into the larger story for no particular reason with the new GP.

  4. twangy’s avatar

    Always good to hear from you, Andie. You’re such good company.

    I don’t find your decision not to see someone else strange – you already have found someone really good, who you trust.
    But yes, good to keep the name, in case.

  5. Mrs. Gamgee’s avatar

    Having a doctor you trust is so important. (and something that I don’t have currently… at least for general stuff) Sounds to me like you have the situation well in hand.


  6. Adele’s avatar

    There are so few good doctors, ones who balance compassion with knowledge. And who are amenable to our wishes and suggestions. As the years have passed, the last has become very important to me. I don’t know all there is to know about loss, but I know a whole hell of a lot. And I need someone who will talk to me on the level.

    At the same time, I’m also glad you have that security blanket. You needn’t ever call that doctor up. But s/he exists and is close at hand.

    As for the medical history, I hate giving it. I have also boiled it down to a one-sentence delivery. And there are certain settings (a dentist’s office, for example) where I just don’t think it’s necessary information.

  7. Serendipity’s avatar

    It’s so hard to find a doctor you like. I’m relatively happy with my OB, he knows my history and he knows me, I trust him and I guess that’s the most important thing. But I’ve still researched other Doctors, I like to know that if I had to switch I have already explored my major options. It’s the same thing I guess, I like to know that the option to change is there if I needed it.

  8. Jenny’s avatar

    Hey there, just running across your blog at the tail end of ICLW and so pleased to find another Aussie blogger (I’ve only found a few)! I haven’t had a chance to back-read and familiarise myself with your whole store but I have added you to my reader and will do so soon. But, a good doc is so hard to come by so I can understand your desire to hang on to the old one rather than starting over with a local doc.

    So, guess for now I’m just offering up some generic moral support and looking forward to getting to know you better.

  9. conceptionally challenged’s avatar

    Good and understanding doctors are so hard to find. I’m glad your new GP made a good first impression. Once (years ago actually) I gave my medical history to a new ob/gyn, and at some point she said “oh dear, you managed to hit all the difficult spots” or something along those lines… it was probably meant to be sympathetic, but really, hearing that from a doctor isn’t exactly encouraging. And that was before we even tried to get pregnant.

  10. Egghunt’s avatar

    Hi Andie. I think your reasons for wanting to hold onto Dr C are sound. As are your feelings for your new GP. You’ve seen a lot of medical professionals in your time and unfortunately you’ve come to learn that some of them have chosen the wrong career path. I think we reach a point where we almost expect to be let down by Drs etc and so to have someone actually reach out and show some compassion can really come as a suprise.
    Sorry I’ve been awol for so long, I’ve loved having your supportive comments though and I’m so glad your friends and family are safe and far away from the horrors of chch. I’m also sorry about your last bfn…natural cycle or medicated, the hope is still there and it still hurts just as much when it all comes crashing down. Sorry you had to experience that fall yet again. x