Matters of life and death: part two

Part the Second: Death

I had intended to write a post about my mother reaching the end stage of her treatment for lymphoma; that there were only weeks to live; that it was a very hard thing to watch your parent waste away in front of you. Yet time slips away and suddenly there is only silence. My mother passed away at approximately 1:30am this morning.

My aunt and I had spent the last few days by her side, along with a close friend of my mother’s. We said goodbye when we left the hospital this evening because it seemed unlikely that she would make it through the night. A nurse called about 1am to say she was deteriorating. My husband, aunt, and I raced to the hospital through driving rain but she had passed away before we arrived.

She was not in any pain and a nurse was with her, holding her hand. I am so thankful for these small mercies and the great kindness that all of the nursing staff and the palliative care team have shown to us. There are truly some angels in this world. I am grateful that my aunt and my mother’s friend were here; that they had time to spend with her. I am glad that my mother’s suffering is over and I hope that she is at peace now.

Life is short, dear readers. Time is precious. If we are fortunate enough to have family and friends to love and to care about us, then we are truly blessed. Reach out and tell them you love them. Live well. Laugh. Love.

  1. mel’s avatar

    I’m so sorry xxx mel

  2. Adele’s avatar

    Andie, I’m so sorry. It’s a loss I can’t fathom, and for someone who has endured a lot of loss, I wish very much that you had been spared it. I’m glad that you were with your mother towards the end, that you were able to say goodbye. That she was given good care and love when it was needed most. I’m so very, very sorry.

  3. Misfit’s avatar

    I am so sorry, Andie. My thoughts are with youband your family tonight.

  4. Pundelina’s avatar

    Oh Andie! I’m so very sorry for your loss. Though somewhat expected, it’s always horribly hard and awful to say farewell to those we love :(

    Life is short indeed.


  5. twangy’s avatar

    Oh Andie. I am so sorry, what an awful blow that must be. I’ve seen in JB this terrible sadness, and yet alongside it, the need to appreciate every minute, to be happy as much as we can, to live the day, just like you say.

    You’re so right.

    Many good wishes to you and your family. You’ll be in my thoughts.

  6. Starsfish’s avatar

    There are no words. My prayers are with you at this time of grief. Take care.

  7. bunny’s avatar

    Oh Andie, I’m so sorry for this loss. Without pretending I know what you’re going through, I will say that the combination of gratitude and gladness that pain is at an end is familiar to me. I wish our parents could live forever–the world can feel so bleak and lonely when one leaves us, and knowing that it’s the natural course of events doesn’t make a bit of difference. She must have been an amazing woman to have produced a daughter like you… Lots of love.

  8. conceptionally Challenged’s avatar

    Andie, I’m so very sorry.
    Thinking of you.

  9. bunny’s avatar

    Just thinking of you and hoping you (and our hair!) are doing okay.

  10. Misfit’s avatar

    Same as bunny. Checking up on you.